The Sober Truth About Sobriety

This time last year I realized something. I was condemning myself for not doing all the things I thought I was suppose to do to stay sober. I wasn’t reading sober literature. I wasn’t attending meetings. I wasn’t sponsoring other alcoholics. And then it happened— while I no longer feared losing my sobriety, I feared what I was taught in AA, that I would lose the life I had worked so hard to create. I began feeling not good enough. I felt like I was failing. Not measuring up. Not checking off all those boxes. Was I a sober fraud?

Love Detours

I had a friend call last week and share with me her recent heartache. She is going through a breakup, has to find a new job, home and start over.  "I want to be like you. You radiate confidence. You walk into a room and seem to have it all together. How do you do it?” she said. I suppose it's easy to think that way, after all I am happily married, have two healthy children, a growing career and am grateful to be building a new home. But I quickly chuckled and reminded her that I rarely "have it together," despite how it may seem. I then went into detail about the brokenness of my past and the time that I too, had my heart broken. 

What I've learned after 1 year on Instagram

I just celebrated 1 year on Instagram. One year since I decided to lean into an unknown space, take a chance on myself and my work, and hit "publish" on my first post. It was a quote by Maya Angelou that reads "there is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you,” which is the “why” of why I started an IG page. It has been a mountain of learning; about myself, my balance and boundaries, and it’s been a gift of finding supportive folks to connect and work alongside.
Here are a few things I have learned along this crazy journey that I wish I would have known from the start:

5 Ways to Spice Things Up

It hit me last night, as I was laying in bed trying to fall asleep. My biggest enemy is... COMPLACENCY. So what's the big deal you ask? There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling grounded and rooted in a routine, secure in a relationship or job, and stable in the season you are in personally or professionally. However I have found that the threat of complacency often masks itself as these same feelings of peace and comfort. The difference being, complacency tends to (over time) stir up feelings of unhappiness and discouragement, often leaving you confused as to what the culprit is, and completely deflated in the process. These 5 tips will help you combat that complacency and keep you moving forward in all areas of your life

The "Clingy" Moments of Motherhood

It is really difficult to always like doing something that is exhausting, yet humbling. Motherhood is like working out at the gym; the getting dressed is hard. The getting in the car is hard. The walking into the gym is hard. The working out is really hard. But THEN once it's over, you feel SO good! Same with motherhood. The days are long, and hard, and once they are over- it feels like a damn good workout finished. A stretch of character. An accomplishment. A step of growth. 

6 Tips to Tame Your Anxiety Right NOW

I have always struggled with a bit of depression and anxiety. I found some relief through sobriety but still occasional face discomforts that span anywhere from butterflies in my stomach, to full on panic attacks, to really low, bottomless pits of sadness and loneliness-- for no apparent reason. Gratefully, I have tools today that I can turn to that I use to pull myself out of those ruts. I keep them handy and force myself to do them, (because in moments of desperation- who can remember or find the energy?) I share in hopes they help you or a loved one.  

Why We Don't Do "Time Out" Anymore- and Do THIS Instead

When my daughter turned two, my husband and I found ourselves sending our daughter to "time out" when she didn't follow the rules or listen. Why? Well, because that's what we thought would work. Most parents I knew did it, and I didn't really have any other options. It worked the first few times, and we felt darn proud! But then- it stopped. Not the time out, the listening. She started making a game of it, putting herself in time out -- frustrating the heck out of my husband and I. We were stumped. It wasn't working. 

5 Tips for Working Moms Who Want to Create More Time + Happiness

As a busy woman, it is often hard to imagine having it ALL- a strong marriage, raising grounded and healthy children, and success inside a career. More times than not, you'll hear working women say "there isn't enough hours in the day to get it all done," or "I wish there were two of me." The good news is, there is no need to continue feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, and quite frankly- unhappy. After feeling time and time again like I was being continuously washed away by life, I decided it was time to make a change. Here are my 5 tips to create more time, and ultimately more happiness in your life.

Recent Happenings...

Happy New Year friends! Maybe you have been following this blog for a while, or perhaps we were recently brought together thanks to last Falls (ahhhmazing!) Palm Mom convention! If you attended, you should have received my FREE e-book titled "Moms and Mental Health: WHAT it is, WHY it matters, HOW to cope." Regardless, I am so grateful we have connected and I wanted to share with you a bit about the recent happenings over here at Mombo Jombo and upcoming ways you can get involved.

My last will + testament

With Christmas fast approaching and the hustle and bustle of holiday festivities, this was the last thing I wanted to finish. But it needed to be done as in the blink of an eye- life can change and I could be gone. My husband urged me to share it with all of you, and so here it is. I hope it encourages you to write a few things down for your loved ones too.